I Need your advice guys

swiftmed · 10-16-2007, 09:43 PM

Hey Guys,

well this is my situation. a VERY good friend of mine has recently been diagnosed with cancer and been given less than 6 months to live. i was devestated as was he to learn the news. I have offered to run his computer shop for him whilst he goes through cancer treatments etc to try and prolong his life as long as possible, but the bottom line is, he has less than 6 months.

Put it this way, if it wasn't for this man, i wouldn't be where i am today with regards to business and my lifestyle, but i have not got one single photo of me and him together, which i would really LOVE to have.

How can i ask him if we can have a photo together, i know that by asking him, he will know that im asking because he knows its because i know he is dieing. how can i ask him without causing offence or upset in any way?

please help. what would you guys do?

Kashwak · 10-16-2007, 09:59 PM

well for one i have cancer and i have been though the treatments and even went to maryland at the cancer ist there and stayed for 2 months. so i know what he is going throught and what you are going through.

but see as that you guys are friends and have been for a while i would say just ask him for a picture together. i for one would want honesty from a long time friend rather then them beat around the bush.

i wish him and you best of luck.

swiftmed · 10-16-2007, 10:05 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Kashwak

well for one i have cancer and i have been though the treatments and even went to maryland at the cancer ist there and stayed for 2 months. so i know what he is going throught and what you are going through.

but see as that you guys are friends and have been for a while i would say just ask him for a picture together. i for one would want honesty from a long time friend rather then them beat around the bush.

i wish him and you best of luck.

Hi,

thankyou for taking the time to reply to me and thank you for your advice. i really do appreciate it, and may i wish you every luck to you for a safe and hopefully, speedy recovery.

Kashwak · 10-16-2007, 10:23 PM

no prob man i know how it is. and i think he would really love to take a picture with a friend like you. and thank you

Bisje · 10-16-2007, 10:28 PM

I think it's a good advice.
Sadly enough, I experienced the same situation a couple of times in my family.
I only learned 1 thing. Don't try to ignore it or to do as if the cancer is not there.
It is there... so it's better to talk about it then to try to ignore it.

swiftmed · 10-16-2007, 11:02 PM

hey guys,

thanks for ALL of your advice and support. i think the general consensus here is to just ask him, and to support him in whatever way i can, which is exactly what i think i will do.

Thank you, Everybody!!!

Zack · 10-16-2007, 11:15 PM

Ask. Would you rather risk never having a photo of you and him?

Zack

stevefrancis711 · 10-18-2007, 03:05 AM

Go ahead bro ask him , And will pray for him .He would be happy to have a friend like you !!

OldWelshGuy · 10-18-2007, 07:20 AM

I hav e lost friends, and it is better to be honest about things that skirt around it as if it isn't there. Tell the man the truth, that you love him, and thatyou realised you do not have any photos of you together. I am sure he will understand, and that it will not hurt as you think it might.

My thoughts and prayers go out to him and his family /friends.

10-16-2007, 09:43 PM	#1
swiftmed Senior Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Plymouth, United Kingdom Posts: 342	I Need your advice guys - Cancer Hey Guys, well this is my situation. a VERY good friend of mine has recently been diagnosed with cancer and been given less than 6 months to live. i was devestated as was he to learn the news. I have offered to run his computer shop for him whilst he goes through cancer treatments etc to try and prolong his life as long as possible, but the bottom line is, he has less than 6 months. Put it this way, if it wasn't for this man, i wouldn't be where i am today with regards to business and my lifestyle, but i have not got one single photo of me and him together, which i would really LOVE to have. How can i ask him if we can have a photo together, i know that by asking him, he will know that im asking because he knows its because i know he is dieing. how can i ask him without causing offence or upset in any way? please help. what would you guys do? __________________ Kind Regards, Andy MacDonald SEO & Marketing Tips for Webmasters \| Logo Design

10-16-2007, 09:59 PM	#2
Kashwak Junior Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Tulsa, oklahoma Posts: 66	Re: I Need your advice guys - Cancer well for one i have cancer and i have been though the treatments and even went to maryland at the cancer ist there and stayed for 2 months. so i know what he is going throught and what you are going through. but see as that you guys are friends and have been for a while i would say just ask him for a picture together. i for one would want honesty from a long time friend rather then them beat around the bush. i wish him and you best of luck.

10-16-2007, 10:23 PM	#4
Kashwak Junior Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Tulsa, oklahoma Posts: 66	Re: I Need your advice guys - Cancer no prob man i know how it is. and i think he would really love to take a picture with a friend like you. and thank you

10-16-2007, 10:28 PM	#5
Bisje MVP Runner-up 2006 Contributor Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Antwerpen / Belgium Posts: 392	Re: I Need your advice guys - Cancer I think it's a good advice. Sadly enough, I experienced the same situation a couple of times in my family. I only learned 1 thing. Don't try to ignore it or to do as if the cancer is not there. It is there... so it's better to talk about it then to try to ignore it. __________________ Take a look at Eric's Books Site to know what I read or at Eric's Boeken Site for the Dutch talking. Add your book-related website at my Books Directory.

10-16-2007, 11:02 PM	#6
swiftmed Senior Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Plymouth, United Kingdom Posts: 342	Re: I Need your advice guys - Cancer hey guys, thanks for ALL of your advice and support. i think the general consensus here is to just ask him, and to support him in whatever way i can, which is exactly what i think i will do. Thank you, Everybody!!! __________________ Kind Regards, Andy MacDonald SEO & Marketing Tips for Webmasters \| Logo Design

10-16-2007, 11:15 PM	#7
Zack Junior Guru Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: North Carolina Posts: 760	Re: I Need your advice guys - Cancer Ask. Would you rather risk never having a photo of you and him? Zack __________________ Thumpr ~ Xcolored

10-18-2007, 03:05 AM	#8
stevefrancis711 Smurf Join Date: Jan 2006 Posts: 21	Re: I Need your advice guys - Cancer Go ahead bro ask him , And will pray for him .He would be happy to have a friend like you !! __________________ www.Indiandrugshop.com www.hillaryslaugh.com www.University.ms

10-18-2007, 07:20 AM	#9
OldWelshGuy iWEBTOOL SEO Advisor Contributor Join Date: May 2007 Posts: 675	Re: I Need your advice guys - Cancer I hav e lost friends, and it is better to be honest about things that skirt around it as if it isn't there. Tell the man the truth, that you love him, and thatyou realised you do not have any photos of you together. I am sure he will understand, and that it will not hurt as you think it might. My thoughts and prayers go out to him and his family /friends. __________________ Umbrella Consultancy Internet Marketing Company - Rugby Forum - Google Expert Blog

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